How to Get Your Boss Naked

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Wouldn’t we all like to see what our boss looks like naked? Even the ones that aren’t that beautiful would still be intriguing. I’m not talking about seeing them in their birthday suit. I’m talking about seeing them emotionally naked. I know that I would love to be a fly on the wall when my boss is talking to her best friend.

 

You will probably never get your boss to talk to you like she talks to her best friend, but you can create a relationship that’s based on trust. This trust will create appreciation for you, and the more your boss appreciates you the more enjoyable your work experience will be.

 

Times have changed from thirty years ago when everyone wanted to keep their emotions out of the work place. Back then employees were paid to do a job while keeping their mouth shut. It was before my time, but I’ve heard plenty of stories. Employees used to trust the company to take care of them, but as our culture changes we need to take a more active role in making sure that we are cared for.

 

Creating a more intimate relationship with your boss will encourage your boss to be honest with you. You could find out privileged information that might let you know that you need to start looking for a new job because of layoffs, or information that might help you get a promotion. On the other hand, if you have a cold relationship with your boss you will most likely get the short end of the promotion.

 

I’m not condoning politicking your way to the top, but I am saying you should create a genuine relationship with your boss. Some people call it brown nosing, but I think we need to redefine it. There are different levels of brown nosing and the authentic kind is the one we need to embrace. I don’t think it’s sucking up if you are honest and smart with your compliments, questions, and conversations.

 

Talk to your boss or manager without being intimidated by their stature. They are human like you and me. They have their weaknesses and strengths. The more you understand this the easier it will be to create a solid relationship.

 

Some bosses don’t like a lot of talk about family, but maybe he enjoys car racing. Just because you don’t understand your boss’s interests doesn’t mean you can’t talk about him. So poke around with questions and comments and see how he reacts. Maybe you’ll find common ground between the two of you. Once you do you’ll make your relationship more open and naked, right where you need it to be to get the most out of your job.

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Comments

  1. I’m all for connecting in more authentic, let-your-hair-down, ways. I’m glad you’re talking about emotional nakedness; that photo’s kind of scary.

    For anyone who really wants a more honest relationship with a boss or coworker. Why not just share that intention with them?

    Tom Volkar / Delightful Work’s last blog post..Because Spring Is the Time of Love

  2. Great points. The main reason I’m loyal to my company is because of my relationship with my boss. Developing a good relationship with your superior also gives you an opportunity to express yourself candidly about your company’s direction.

    Funny Picture! LOL

    Chris’s last blog post..Sunday Morning Brunch With The Natives

  3. Hey Tom, authentic relationships are the ones that last. Any employee who can create this with her boss has a leg up at work.

  4. Hey Chris, when I’ve been afraid to discuss raises and ideas with my boss because of the response that I might get the situation made me feel helpless and it was always an unhappy relationship. It forced me to seek employment elsewhere.

  5. Great post. I always struggled to have good relationship with my boss partly because my lack of politicking. Needless to say, I am an entrepreneur and happy to be my own boss.

    Thanks
    Shilpan

    Shilpan @ successsoul.com’s last blog post..Another Guest Post at the Dumb Little Man – Which comes first, the Success or the Happiness?

  6. Hey Shilpan, some people are not meant to have a boss. They need to take their career into their own hands. At least you understood this and acted on it. I applaud any entrepreneur making a go of his own business. It’s not easy, but very rewarding.

  7. Good communication creates good emotions — I think that’s a workplace (and lifeplace) secret to success. It’s strange that in so many work environments, people seem to be jockeying for position, as if being honest about how they feel, who they are, what they want, what scares them are irrelevant to their success, when ironically communicating just these things is essential to their happiness. And how can you call yourself a success if you’re not happy getting there?

    Frank’s last blog post..Taxonomy of Clean Tech

  8. Good post.

    Companies re-engineer processes. And they think they can re-engineer people. They can’t. We are unpredictable and emotional. And we can’t limit conversations at work to conversations about work.

    Here’s one thing I observed while working for a Formula 1 racing team (race car driving). People in the manufacturing plant made cars. Their job was no different than what you would see in a traditional car manufacturing plant. Yet the people work longer hours for less money. Why? It’s not what we do, it’s why we do it.

    When I worked at Accenture, during the annual review process, I would ask people what they wanted to accomplish over the next year. Not just at work, but in life. It’s amazing what you will discover.

    Although I am not sure you need to be emotionally naked to have good conversations…understanding human motivation is certainly the best way to create a high performance work environment.

    Steve Shapiro’s last blog post..An Open Innovation Dilemma

  9. Hey Frank, we all need to feel good at we accomplish our goals. Great point! There are so many people that reach their goals and realize it wasn’t what they wanted at all. They just blindly do, do, do and end up feeling terrible. When we can get naked with our co-workers and ourselves we can learn to work happy.

  10. Hey Steve, I love your line, “It’s not what we do, it’s why we do it.” Because it’s the back bone to working happy. If we understand why we do what we do then we can work from there. It’s the starting point to creating good relationships with our co-workers. If we don’t like what we do then we won’t try to improve anything.

  11. If one’s to succeed in the workplace equations with your boss is immensely important. Understanding your boss, connecting to him, solving his problems and working together with trust is a simple way to a great relationship with bosses.

    You may be interested in a slide I’ve hosted on Slideshare on How to Get your Boss To Run Behind You

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