Comments on: 10 Secrets to Motivating Teenagers http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/ You must by happy to do great work. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 17:23:22 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: tyrus alice http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-15285 tyrus alice Wed, 27 Oct 2010 14:31:46 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-15285 thanks 4 the tips i guess this is what most parents and leaders miss to get. thanks 4 the tips i guess this is what most parents and leaders miss to get.

]]> By: futanaria http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-14188 futanaria Tue, 05 Oct 2010 17:20:49 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-14188 Really helpfull article. We're sometimes forget that teenager is quite different person then we, and we cannot expect from teenager to behave like the adult "out of the box". Really helpfull article.
We’re sometimes forget that teenager is quite different person then we, and we cannot expect from teenager to behave like the adult “out of the box”.

]]> By: Anita Popa http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-11410 Anita Popa Mon, 19 Jul 2010 22:36:22 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-11410 Hi, My 18 yr old son used to be quite a high achiever in middle school years with our help and support. We sent him to a boarding school for high school, during which he found that he was not the smatest one in about every aspect he is involved. He seems to have developed a habit to be a very bad procrasnator, going overdue with school projects again and again. Despite so, he did not give up, still tried to get some how a good grade with a few classes slacked off on a grade that he would never accept before. The concern is that he is learning to accept the bad grades and not feeling bad about them while we know that he had more potentials to do better. Now he also becomes quite glued to online video games, reading blogs about the games more than a dozen hours a day and often stays up until very late without going to bed. Now in the summer break, the only thing he actually is interested to do at home (other than going to work for three days) is being glued to the computer monitor. It surprised me that he is not even interested to watch movies when we called him to join. If asked what he wants to do with his life, he really can not come up with an answer. All he cares about (at least it seems to me) is playing the games. He is not being responsive to friends reaching to him. He is always reative to his life challenges that come to him. I am very glad that he found a job to work 3 days a week, which will drag him out of the house and forces him to interact with all kinds of people. At the same time, he will gain real life experiences. How in the world can I help him realize that his destiny is in his own hands and find a purpose of life, strive for it and fight for it? Both his parents are hard workers and responsible people. We believe that we have set good examples for him. One example is that during his middle school years, we did not even watch TV so that he did not get distracted or felt unfair that he had to work hard while his parents had fun with TV. I wonder what we did wrong to make him becoming careless, lazy (as he described himself some times), irresponsive and a big procrasnator. It just bothers me so deeply to see him that way without signs of him getting on the right track to drive his life on his own. Desperately yours, Hi, My 18 yr old son used to be quite a high achiever in middle school years with our help and support. We sent him to a boarding school for high school, during which he found that he was not the smatest one in about every aspect he is involved. He seems to have developed a habit to be a very bad procrasnator, going overdue with school projects again and again. Despite so, he did not give up, still tried to get some how a good grade with a few classes slacked off on a grade that he would never accept before. The concern is that he is learning to accept the bad grades and not feeling bad about them while we know that he had more potentials to do better. Now he also becomes quite glued to online video games, reading blogs about the games more than a dozen hours a day and often stays up until very late without going to bed. Now in the summer break, the only thing he actually is interested to do at home (other than going to work for three days) is being glued to the computer monitor. It surprised me that he is not even interested to watch movies when we called him to join. If asked what he wants to do with his life, he really can not come up with an answer. All he cares about (at least it seems to me) is playing the games. He is not being responsive to friends reaching to him. He is always reative to his life challenges that come to him. I am very glad that he found a job to work 3 days a week, which will drag him out of the house and forces him to interact with all kinds of people. At the same time, he will gain real life experiences. How in the world can I help him realize that his destiny is in his own hands and find a purpose of life, strive for it and fight for it? Both his parents are hard workers and responsible people. We believe that we have set good examples for him. One example is that during his middle school years, we did not even watch TV so that he did not get distracted or felt unfair that he had to work hard while his parents had fun with TV. I wonder what we did wrong to make him becoming careless, lazy (as he described himself some times), irresponsive and a big procrasnator. It just bothers me so deeply to see him that way without signs of him getting on the right track to drive his life on his own. Desperately yours,

]]> By: Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-1938 Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy Fri, 14 Nov 2008 04:05:17 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-1938 Hi Mary, it is you and it isn't you. Teenagers are all trying to find their way. They do this in thousands of ways. Your teenage girl is taking it out on you because she is growing into herself. You've probably already heard this, but don't take it personal. She will eventually get over this phase. If you stick by her and give her the love she needs she'll turn back around. I know it's rough now, but it won't last forever. I promise. Hi Mary, it is you and it isn’t you. Teenagers are all trying to find their way. They do this in thousands of ways. Your teenage girl is taking it out on you because she is growing into herself. You’ve probably already heard this, but don’t take it personal. She will eventually get over this phase. If you stick by her and give her the love she needs she’ll turn back around.

I know it’s rough now, but it won’t last forever. I promise.

]]> By: mary jennings http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-1920 mary jennings Thu, 13 Nov 2008 17:25:59 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-1920 I have a very moody teenage girl, she won't talk , as soon as she meets friends she turns into a delight, is it me. I have a very moody teenage girl, she won’t talk , as soon as she meets friends she turns into a delight, is it me.

]]> By: Matt @ Face Your Fork http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-468 Matt @ Face Your Fork Wed, 04 Jun 2008 18:44:15 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-468 Sounds like a list that could easily be applied to any person, not just teens. ;) I think listening and understanding are the two most important things; once you do those, the rest of your suggestions easily fall into place. <em>Matt @ Face Your Fork's last blog post..<a href='http://www.faceyourfork.com/2008/06/discovering-your-top-life-values/' rel="nofollow">Discovering Your Top Life Values</a></em> Sounds like a list that could easily be applied to any person, not just teens. ;)

I think listening and understanding are the two most important things; once you do those, the rest of your suggestions easily fall into place.

Matt @ Face Your Fork’s last blog post..Discovering Your Top Life Values

]]> By: Marc and Angel Hack Life http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-467 Marc and Angel Hack Life Wed, 04 Jun 2008 17:35:01 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-467 Karl, as always, great advice. I think the act of 'remembering' how you felt when you were younger is the primary key. This way you can explain things to teenagers from an angle they can relate to. It's hard to motivate someone who can't relate to you at all. <em>Marc and Angel Hack Life's last blog post..<a href='http://www.marcandangel.com/2008/06/02/50-things-everyone-should-know-how-to-do/' rel="nofollow">50 Things Everyone Should Know How To Do</a></em> Karl, as always, great advice. I think the act of ‘remembering’ how you felt when you were younger is the primary key. This way you can explain things to teenagers from an angle they can relate to. It’s hard to motivate someone who can’t relate to you at all.

Marc and Angel Hack Life’s last blog post..50 Things Everyone Should Know How To Do

]]> By: Barbara Swafford http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-465 Barbara Swafford Wed, 04 Jun 2008 08:09:19 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-465 Hi Karl, I found that by treating teens with respect, and listening to them, they start to want to please you. By giving them frequent (and deserved) atta boys/girls, they begin to shine. Often they just want to be heard. <em>Barbara Swafford's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/bloggingwithoutablog/DWWZ/~3/304305420/' rel="nofollow">Blogging - Secretly Affecting Lives</a></em> Hi Karl,

I found that by treating teens with respect, and listening to them, they start to want to please you. By giving them frequent (and deserved) atta boys/girls, they begin to shine. Often they just want to be heard.

Barbara Swafford’s last blog post..Blogging – Secretly Affecting Lives

]]> By: The Work Happy Guy http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-463 The Work Happy Guy Wed, 04 Jun 2008 03:07:35 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-463 Hey Marelisa, I think you are right. Being a teenager is a pain in the butt. I would never go back to my teens because of all the hormones and emotions. I like the older me because I'm more stable and enjoy my life so much more. Because we understand what it's like to be a teenager, we have an opportunity to help teens develop into good people. Parents, teachers, uncles and aunts all need to chip in and make a difference in their lives. The old saying is so true - it takes a village to raise a child. Hey Marelisa, I think you are right. Being a teenager is a pain in the butt. I would never go back to my teens because of all the hormones and emotions. I like the older me because I’m more stable and enjoy my life so much more.

Because we understand what it’s like to be a teenager, we have an opportunity to help teens develop into good people. Parents, teachers, uncles and aunts all need to chip in and make a difference in their lives. The old saying is so true – it takes a village to raise a child.

]]> By: The Work Happy Guy http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-462 The Work Happy Guy Wed, 04 Jun 2008 03:02:44 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/06/02/10-secrets-to-motivating-teenagers/#comment-462 Hey Daniel, being there is so important. I think that would make a great addition to the list. They need active guidance not just someone telling them what to do, but being there to support them. Hey Daniel, being there is so important. I think that would make a great addition to the list. They need active guidance not just someone telling them what to do, but being there to support them.

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