Comments on: The Mirror of Difficult People

By: Marelisa

Marelisa — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 15:07:03 +0000

That's a good point: how we perceive other people is basically the story we're telling ourselves about that person. Sometimes you need to look at a person a little closer in order to notice details you missed before and rewrite the character you've created in your head to represent that person. Marelisa's last blog post..15 Brain Hacks - Gym and Spa for Your Brain

By: Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy

Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 02:35:52 +0000

Hey Robin, when we know who we like to work with it makes getting projects done a lot easier.

Hey Barbara, empathy is one of the greatest emotional tools any human possesses.

Hey Sara, you’re right. When we realize that we don’t always make a good impression then we can be easier on others who may be similar.

By: Sara at On Simplicity

Sara at On Simplicity — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 04:28:20 +0000

I definitely give folks the benefit of the doubt if we don't click right away. I'm reserved, so I don't always make a great impression myself. People who give me a bad feeling, though, they usually have to earn my trust, though I'm happy to be friendly and helpful in the meantime. Sara at On Simplicity's last blog post..Three Things You’d Save in an Emergency

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 07:00:07 +0000

Hi Karl, I agree, we do need to show a little more empathy toward people when we meet them for the first time. We're not always able to present our best selves, and neither are others. I say, give everyone a chance. Barbara Swafford's last blog post..Plugins, Questions and Open Mic

By: Robin

Robin — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:57:15 +0000

Hi there Karl - great points! We really can change our work relationships by deliberately trying to see certain people in a different light, I think. I also work with the idea of attracting the people that suit me, to work with - in the past I was in work situations I was best out of. Robin's last blog post..On Overcoming Obstacles

By: Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy

Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 19:07:03 +0000

Hey Lance, when we try to stay aware of the many perspectives in any given interaction it makes it easier ot suspend our judgements.

Hey Urban Panther, there is a reason we become wiser as we age. We learn when to form bonds and when to let go. Sometimes it’s not worth our energy to invest in someone that won’t give back .

By: Urban Panther

Urban Panther — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 15:13:24 +0000

I really try not to form hard and fast opinions on someone from one-off meetings. Instead, I try to invest the energy over a period of time to get a better picture of that person. It's true though, once I have deemed someone to be difficult, I find it very hard to dredge up the energy to work with them. I used to be able to, but I guess I am being more particular about what/whom I expend energy on. Urban Panther's last blog post..Cut and run

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 13:37:38 +0000

I've recently been taking a hard look at situations when they come up, and telling myself that I have no idea what someone else might be going through at this moment in time. Especially if this is someone new, or someone I haven't really connected with. The beauty of this is that, it really helps me to not hold a grudge of form an opinion too soon (usually - I'm still working on this). And that really does open up the possibilities of having a much better potential relationship. Lance's last blog post..Dreams For Our World