Comments on: Work in the Now http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/ You must by happy to do great work. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 17:23:22 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The Skillful Art of Salary Negotiation | Work Happy Now! http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-16675 The Skillful Art of Salary Negotiation | Work Happy Now! Mon, 13 Dec 2010 22:26:54 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-16675 [...] make the negotiation awkward and leave a negative first impression on your part. Be positive and avoid taking criticism personally. You are now in a position to either take or leave the [...] [...] make the negotiation awkward and leave a negative first impression on your part. Be positive and avoid taking criticism personally. You are now in a position to either take or leave the [...]

]]> By: Audra Krell http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4478 Audra Krell Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:04:01 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4478 I also try to watch it from the other side. No one can effectively lead grumbling people. I try not to complain and just follow, when I'm called to follow. I realize that sometimes I'm a leader and sometimes not. Happiness changes everything! I also try to watch it from the other side. No one can effectively lead grumbling people. I try not to complain and just follow, when I’m called to follow. I realize that sometimes I’m a leader and sometimes not. Happiness changes everything!

]]> By: Sara http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4475 Sara Tue, 24 Feb 2009 21:44:19 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4475 Karl -- This post made me really think. You make an excellent point in that we DO need to be careful how we interpret a look or a comment. I find that when I'm needing or wanting something from a person, my reaction to their comments or looks is much more self conscious. In these cases, I really do tend to read into what I hear or see. I appreciate the reminder to stop and look inside myself before I respond via my ego. Thanks :~) Karl — This post made me really think. You make an excellent point in that we DO need to be careful how we interpret a look or a comment. I find that when I’m needing or wanting something from a person, my reaction to their comments or looks is much more self conscious. In these cases, I really do tend to read into what I hear or see. I appreciate the reminder to stop and look inside myself before I respond via my ego. Thanks :~)

]]> By: Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4473 Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:59:56 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4473 Hi Barbara, thank you for the compliment. Just trying to give as much value as I can in as many ways possible. I agree with you. When we know we are doing a good job that's all that should matter. Hi Stacey, awesome points! You can see that you've done a lot of thinking on this subject. My hope is that we start teaching emotional tools in our schools so that students can use them in their every day interactions. Hi Barbara, thank you for the compliment. Just trying to give as much value as I can in as many ways possible. I agree with you. When we know we are doing a good job that’s all that should matter.

Hi Stacey, awesome points! You can see that you’ve done a lot of thinking on this subject. My hope is that we start teaching emotional tools in our schools so that students can use them in their every day interactions.

]]> By: Stacey Shipman http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4472 Stacey Shipman Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:10:49 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4472 Managing emotions -something they didn't teach us in school! But would have been much more handy than algebra for a 3rd semester. I think I read in Pema Chodron that nothing has meaning until we assign meaning. Emotions often take over in the work place - we take feedback personally, we give feedback with the premise that it will be taken personally. We allow our ego to get in the way, because that is all we know. Emotional response, in my experience, is usually fear-based, we don't have enough information. We haven't been taught how to manage emotions. We are taught math and science and reading and left to the important, difficult tasks on our own. Managing emotions -something they didn’t teach us in school! But would have been much more handy than algebra for a 3rd semester. I think I read in Pema Chodron that nothing has meaning until we assign meaning. Emotions often take over in the work place – we take feedback personally, we give feedback with the premise that it will be taken personally. We allow our ego to get in the way, because that is all we know. Emotional response, in my experience, is usually fear-based, we don’t have enough information. We haven’t been taught how to manage emotions. We are taught math and science and reading and left to the important, difficult tasks on our own.

]]> By: Barbara Swafford http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4466 Barbara Swafford Tue, 24 Feb 2009 08:38:08 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4466 Hi Karl - I agree that those "looks" only bother us if we're insecure or maybe we know we're not doing our job as well as we could. Otherwise, like you said, "it's just a look". BTW: You're getting real good with these videos. :) Hi Karl – I agree that those “looks” only bother us if we’re insecure or maybe we know we’re not doing our job as well as we could. Otherwise, like you said, “it’s just a look”.

BTW: You’re getting real good with these videos. :)

]]> By: Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4458 Karl Staib - The Work Happy Guy Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:32:34 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4458 Hi Lance, our emotional development is as important as the food we eat and how much we exercise. That's awesome that your company helps you along with these concepts. Hi Juliet, There are so many reasons that we could have gotten a certain look. Maybe they are having a bad day or maybe we are having a bad day. We take it the wrong way and blog it out of proportion. We need to use all the tools in our arsenal to make each interaction clear and without too much emotional attachment. Hi Glen, the more control we have over our emotional state the more effective we will be at work. You make a great point. Hi J.D., when we make something personal then it's filled with layers of emotions. It's hard to figure out what's real and what isn't. Hi Christine, practice is the key to putting our emotional development together. It can be a pain in the butt, but the rewards are many. Hi Lance, our emotional development is as important as the food we eat and how much we exercise. That’s awesome that your company helps you along with these concepts.

Hi Juliet, There are so many reasons that we could have gotten a certain look. Maybe they are having a bad day or maybe we are having a bad day. We take it the wrong way and blog it out of proportion. We need to use all the tools in our arsenal to make each interaction clear and without too much emotional attachment.

Hi Glen, the more control we have over our emotional state the more effective we will be at work. You make a great point.

Hi J.D., when we make something personal then it’s filled with layers of emotions. It’s hard to figure out what’s real and what isn’t.

Hi Christine, practice is the key to putting our emotional development together. It can be a pain in the butt, but the rewards are many.

]]> By: Christine http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4456 Christine Mon, 23 Feb 2009 18:19:32 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4456 Working in the now--indeed, living in the now--is something I myself only began exploring in the past couple of years. As you mentioned in the video, it takes a lot of practice. I think many people are not even aware of these sort of techniques, so thank you for bringing attention to them on your blog. Others who are aware of them and maybe tried them but gave up should realize you need to keep applying them over and over again. It is not easy but is well worth the effort. Working in the now–indeed, living in the now–is something I myself only began exploring in the past couple of years. As you mentioned in the video, it takes a lot of practice.

I think many people are not even aware of these sort of techniques, so thank you for bringing attention to them on your blog. Others who are aware of them and maybe tried them but gave up should realize you need to keep applying them over and over again. It is not easy but is well worth the effort.

]]> By: J.D. Meier http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4454 J.D. Meier Mon, 23 Feb 2009 17:07:49 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4454 "Think of them as a journey" ... great metaphor! It's surprising how many things aren't personal unless we make them so. I find it helpful to ask the question "what's their story?" It's easy to see things from your side, but it can be challenging to look through their eyes. I think keeping perspective and knowing multiple perspectives helps a ton. “Think of them as a journey” … great metaphor!

It’s surprising how many things aren’t personal unless we make them so.

I find it helpful to ask the question “what’s their story?” It’s easy to see things from your side, but it can be challenging to look through their eyes. I think keeping perspective and knowing multiple perspectives helps a ton.

]]> By: Glen Allsopp http://www.workhappynow.com/2009/02/work-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-4452 Glen Allsopp Mon, 23 Feb 2009 14:03:12 +0000 http://www.workhappynow.com/?p=725#comment-4452 I'm missing some plugins on this computer so can't see the video, but I must add that I love the quote you've shared. I thoroughly believe that someones emotional state has a great deal to do with their output effectiveness. Great post Cheers, Glen I’m missing some plugins on this computer so can’t see the video, but I must add that I love the quote you’ve shared. I thoroughly believe that someones emotional state has a great deal to do with their output effectiveness.

Great post

Cheers,
Glen

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