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Last week I had a conversation with my friend Matt. We were chatting while our kids played together and we sipped on some Earl Grey tea.
He joked about how he wished that all he had to do was play music and not have to worry about booking his gigs, marketing, finances, etc.
Have you ever said something similar?
Matt’s a popular local musician in San Antonio. He put in a lot of hard work to get to where he is now.
He laughed. I smiled and took a sip of my tea.
Those words have been bouncing around my head every since they flowed from his lips.
Everything he does from booking gigs to marketing all support his ability to do what he is passionate about.
I recently said something similar. Just recently I was frustrated because I was passed up for a speaking gig. In that moment I wished my great life to be something different. I wished my book was a best seller. I would have gotten that speaking gig I said to myself.
The words flowed out of my mouth. I couldn’t stop them. I paused and smiled at this thought.
I know it’s a good book, filled with great information, but nowhere near a best seller.
I have learned to smile when I’m getting down on my life. It’s how I cope with difficult situations.
Let’s Break It Down
As a parent of a 4-year-old, I realize that we like to try to take 4 steps all at once. Instead of getting us to our destination more quickly, it can cause us to fall on our faces. We may have had far better results just enjoying the walk.
You’ve probably heard the phrase:
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I know I’ve been so focused on a goal before that I forgot about the journey. Have you also forgotten to enjoy the moment you are in for its inherent worth?
There’s so much we miss when we don’t enjoy the journey, because that is the stuff of life. It’s kind of like you can’t laugh at a joke before you hear the whole thing otherwise the punch line doesn’t make sense.
This Is Where the Secret Lies
Maria Forleo was on Oprah’s Sunday show talking with two other panelists about life lessons, seeking and spirituality.
When she said:
“Bring passion to everything you do.”
A little light went off in my head. Then she said.
“Passion is like a muscle that we can build through use.”
Then the light went full bright. Yes! I knew what she meant.
When you do work you love, you do amazing work.
When you do work you hate, you do crappy work.
That’s why it all starts with passion, then the focus and strengths come into play to turn an action into a superpower.
How do you go about bringing passion to everything you do? First you must start with the basics. Let’s look at a 5 step process that I use with my coaching clients.
1. Become a Watcher of Your Thoughts
The words you choose before you start on a task will determine your mindset. If you say I “need” to wash the dishes, you’ll most likely go into the task dreading every moment. When you say, I “want” to wash the dishes, there is a positive choice you are making before you do the task.
You can check out a short interview I did with Jason Fischer, about mastering your internal dialog over at Domino Connection, my close your connection gaps blog. You might want to have a notebook handy because he digs into some great ideas.
2. Give Your Full Attention to the Situation
If this was your last day on earth, what would you do?
Think about this question for a few seconds. What really matters to you?
If you’re like me, you might notice that your sip of coffee tastes a little better. You might imagine what it would be like to never have another sip of coffee again.
When you give your full attention to the moment, you don’t let worrying thoughts bother you. How could you? Right?
3. Feel Gratitude
When you feel gratitude, your passion will kick in. When you really appreciate what you already have, it helps you find the right perspective. Instead of worrying about needing an extra hour of sleep, you think I’m up and awake so that I can enjoy this day for all it is ready to give me.
Try keeping a gratitude journal and work on making this a part of your daily life. You can learn more about creating your own gratitude journal here. The key will be to be consistent with keeping your journal so it becomes a habit.
4. Listen to Your Emotions, then Let Them Go
Your emotions should help guide your decision-making processes. Successful people always feel first, then make a decision after they’ve had a time to process their emotions and rationally weigh out their options.
This process will allow you to make decisions based on happiness as well as logic.
Once you’ve made your decision, it’s also essential to let your emotional attachment to the outcome go so you can enjoy the present moment.
5. Develop Career Building Habits
You probably used to practice every day. Whether it was soccer, piano, or homework, .you worked on improving yourself. This habit is ingrained in you and can easily be re-energized if given a little motivation.
One idea is to try creating a 30-Day Challenge for yourself. Ask yourself, “What part of your career could use a little help?”
For example, do you need to grow your network? If so, what could you do every single day to find more people you can help as well as lean on them when you need help?
I’m working on bringing you action oriented courses like a 30 Day Connection Guide and course and Unlock Your Superpowers course to help people grow their network. Would this interest you? If so, please fill out this survey link and let me know a little more about what you want help with so I can create something that can really help you grow your career.
Putting It Together
Your career is dependent on micro-improvements. When you try taking small steps every day, you can turn your career into something that makes you happier and helps more people.
Try applying one of these ideas to your career and let me know what happens after one week. If you like the results, I suggest turning it into a 30-Day Challenge in order to make it into a habit.
What has helped you bring more or the most success and happiness to your career?
* I can’t wait to share the Unlock Your Superpowers manifesto with you. I think you are going to love it. Stay tuned.