What did that little voice inside you say as you read the headline?
“I’m not afraid! I’ll read it.”
“I’m scared, but maybe this article will help.”
“That’s the stupidest headline line I’ve ever read, but I have to read it.”
The inner dialog that goes on in our head is responsible for 80% of our happiness. If it’s positive you are usually happy. If it’s not you are usually unhappy.
Pretty simple to understand, but hard to actually do.
I like to call this little negative inner voice in my head my inner arch nemesis. We can be are our own worst enemies, or our best advocates.
I recently talked to an author who linked to me on the Forbes website. We had a nice chat and offered to do an honest review of each other’s books on Amazon. I sent her mine with the caveat that it isn’t designed that well and her reply back was…
Dude, why did you couch your book on the phone as “just something you wrote in the past but my manifesto is better”?? It’s flipping great! I mean it. I really really loved it. Review is up!!!
I didn’t mean to put down my book. It’s just that it’s not as designed as well as I would like. The content is solid, but it could use some images and better transitions.
The thing is, nothing is perfect. My career, my book, and my cooking skills could all be improved.
You see my point. We can be our own worst enemies. Sometimes it’s not even conscious. I put a lot of hard work into my book. Two editors looked threw it twice, a dozen read throughs and edits by me, hours of layout and it’s still could be improved. My book might not be perfect, but I’m proud of it. The reviews have been good and I know it has helped a lot of people.
It’s why I work with mentors, coaches, and therapists who can help me in my business and life. They’ve been invaluable to my success. It’s why I also practice active relaxation and meditation. I’m training myself to be more aware of the thoughts I choose, so I choose more encouraging thoughts that support my goals instead of feed my fears.
What do you do to let go of your fear and take a career gamble that could make you happier?