Do you wish other people at your job wouldn’t be so gossipy? Would you like your co-workers to recycle?

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

- Mahatma Gandhi

All of these problems that we see in others we also see in ourselves; a lot of the things that annoy us stem from an internal attack on our own person. I’ve noticed the people who are most at peace with themselves are most compassionate toward other people. They understand that improving their outlook is more important than changing other people’s habits.

I always wanted to be more relaxed when I commuted to work, but I couldn’t find a perspective to help me be compassionate toward other people. I wanted them to drive like me. I found myself getting mad at each driver who took their good old time making a turn or they stopped at a yellow light and this needed to change.

When a driver in front of me didn’t make that yellow light, I let the anger in and accepted these feelings. Eventually they stopped taking hold of my mood because

• I acknowledged these feelings

• Relaxed with them

• Redirected my thoughts toward something positive

Now when I’m making a turn I take my time and enjoy the shift in force from the car’s speed. When I come out of a turn I take the time to notice a tree that I pass or a person walking on the sidewalk. My attention is not about getting to work it’s finding the cool little things that I’ve never took the time to notice before. I’ve created a new me when I drive, redirecting my thoughts to encourage happiness.

I’m changing my life one habit at a time. I don’t require as much from others. I just make the change in myself and it allows me to have more compassion.

You can make changes in your own life to reflect what you want to see in others. Please remember that you will never be perfect, but as long as you keep adding new positive habits to your life, you’ll improve your happiness.

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The greatest business people, actors, politicians, athletes, and scientists all persevere through failure in their careers before they reach a high level of success. When they do reach that point, there comes a great calm. They realize that their disappointments were some of the best moments of their careers because they used them to improve on their next move.

Life is a beautiful struggle, and the great people of our history used each failure as a slingshot to create a better life. One of the greatest of them was Abraham Lincoln. His failures were numerous and would have crushed a weaker willed person.

• Failed in business in 1831

• Defeated for the legislature in 1832

• Failed in business again in 1834

• Ann Rutledge, the love of his life died in 1835

• Nervous breakdown in 1836

• Defeated in an election in 1838

• Defeated for Congress in 1843, 1846, and a third time in 1848

• Defeated for Senate in 1855

• Defeated for Vice President in 1856

• Defeated for Senate in 1858

• 1860 he was finally elected President!

Every living thing struggles to live. Famous actors struggle with the paparazzi, I struggle with my career, everyone struggles with their relationships, rich people struggle with illness, and everyone struggles with the possibility of death. Every struggle creates new places for joy. The truly great people understand that failure isn’t the measure of a person, but it is what they do with that failure that decides how successful they become.

It is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through failures. Precept, study, advice, and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done.
- Samuel Smiles

It’s using that struggle to help improve your life that makes the difference between success and accepting defeat. Use your difficulties to make yourself stronger. Use you failure as a slingshot toward happiness and you’ll succeed.

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We are surrounded by energy suckers and givers. What category do you put yourself in? It’s probably an energy giver. No one wants to think of themselves as an energy sucker.

Let me ask you this…Do you complain at work? Yes? I know that we all do and sometimes it’s good, but there is a thin line of overdoing it. You can tell when you are overdoing it when people aren’t complaining with you.

Next time you are complaining about your boss or about a certain project then take notice if people are joining in. If they are silent then you may be an energy drainer. Once labeled an energy drainer by your peers it’s going to take some work to overcome this stigma.

We all want to be energy givers because these are the people that pick us up when we are down. You can do this by cutting back on your complaining and putting your thoughts toward encouragement.

As soon as a complaint floats into your mind, try holding it in and doing a mental 180º and give a compliment or some encouragement to someone around you. When you do this over an extended period of time people will want work with you. You’ll create a happier work environment by giving people energy.

It sounds simple, and it really is. The simple techniques work. I’ve done this plenty of times and it has helped almost every time. My guesstimate would be 95% effective.

Who do you know who should use this technique? Please don’t include names because if you do I’ll have to change it to something weird to make people laugh like Dweezil or Moonbeam. Thanks.

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