30 Days of No Complaining – Wisdom Multiplied

I’ve learned more about my habits of thought during my thirty day “No Complaining” challenge than I have in the last six months – such an intense microscope on one area of my life. “No Complaining” forced positive change. The deeper I looked at how complaining affected my life, the easier it was to use this wisdom to my advantage.

I posted 7 articles about my No Complaining journey, each one giving a little different insight than the last:

30 days of no complaining was so intensely interesting that I’m going to do more of these 30 day challenges. I haven’t cured myself of complaining. Far from it. I’ve actually become more convinced of the importance of complaining. We all know the basic methods of complaining.

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Day 29 of 30 – No Complaining – Listen to Your Fear

 

You and I are constantly having to make adjustments at work. There are probably some nights when you don’t get a lot of sleep. We’ve all been through tough sleeping cycles. I’ll bet you’ve lost count of how many times you’ve heard, “I’m tired,” in a “drag the nails along a chalk board” voice by a fellow co-worker. Why do people complain about stuff they can’t change?

Many of us complain because we don’t feel like adjusting to something new. Monday mornings are a tough adjustment for 9-5’ers because they’ve been able to unwind and enjoy relaxed feelings for two days. We don’t want to go back to work and deal with the stress. We love the weekends and we’ll complain about it until we… well, until something comes along to make us happy again. The problem with complaining is that we stay focused on the negative. I talked about this concept in my post, Day 8 of 30 – No Complaining. When we stay attached to our expectations of what we think life should be, we can’t enjoy the positive within the changing moment.

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Day 23 of 30 – Change Spurs Complaining

My job is changing for the positive and negative. Upper management is switching my office to a new location, which means my commute is going to be an extra 2.5 hours each week. That’s nothing to dismiss. An extra 10 hours a month in the car. Ouch! They are also broadening the type of work that I do, which is exciting and scary. I’m going to be more accountable for the company’s wins and losses.

This spurred on a barrage of venting to my wife, who is understandably tired of hearing me complain about my job. I’ve always wanted to own my own business, but was never ready. I’m mentally ready, but not monetarily ready. She gave me the tough love that I needed, but wasn’t looking for. She told me to either suck it up or find a new job. I didn’t want to hear this, not in that moment.
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Day 18 of 30 – Bonus – No Complaining

One day I’m complaining about the weather then the next day may be a similar day of weather and I’m enjoying it. My mood dictates my complaining.

I’ve been documenting my successes and difficulties of no complaining for the month of December.  My complaining hasn’t reduced that much; I wish that I could report that it has, but I must be honest.
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Day 16 of 30 – No Complaining

No complaining can feel fake. I complain to get empathy. This social skill that I’ve strengthened and perfected over the last thirty years is no longer available. This isn’t easy to let go. Like I said in my last update – Day 8 of No Complaining, I’ve fallen off the complaining wagon many times. I’ve been able to catch my mistakes more quickly, but you and I know that old habits only die with a lot of effort.

It was time to put up Christmas lights and I don’t get excited about stringing lights from one end of the house to the other, but I does encourage a festive atmosphere. My technique used to always be to complain about my sacrifice, (oh how hard I work) get my wife to thank me for all my future effort, then get it done as quickly as possible.
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Day 8 of 30 – No Complaining

I can’t say that I was perfect. Man-o-man did I slip up more than once. I caught myself on the phone complaining to a co-worker about my salary. With so many people losing their jobs, I decided to stop myself in mid-sentence and I changed the topic. It may not be the perfect job, but at least I work with good people.

No complaining has been harder than I expected because it’s a part of how I communicate with my co-workers. I don’t think all complaining is bad – far from it. The reason I started this 30 day trial was to become more aware of my thoughts and actions and see if I might want to implement “no complaining” into the rest of my life.

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Day 1of 30 – No complaining

My first day of no complaining went well. My mood was especially chipper. I wasn’t surprised by this because I could tell that I was on a mission. I wasn’t going to succumb to the temptation of whining/complaining.

I only noticed myself complain when I was interrupted in the middle of an email. My boss wanted me to work on a different project and a little complaint came out. I whined that I wasn’t able to finish my thought. I didn’t let my boss hear my complaint, it was just under my breath, but alas it was still there.
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